Break ups...and more

This is kind of picking up from where Sonals last entry ended. Sonal mentioned about first crushes. Times used to be so simple back then - and then SHIT happened i.e. you grew up. And suddenly relationships started to get so complicated.

Well I say this 'cause I just chatted for over an hour with a friend of mine who got dumped by his girlfriend of 2 years and was going through hell. He was telling me how he had lost touch with all his friends and made his life revolve complete around his girl. Now that she was gone he effectively had no friends and everything around him reminded him of her. I have heard of similar things happening around me a lot in the last couple of years.

While my efforts to cheer him up werent quite successful this conversation made me think about how important it is to continue pursuing your own personal life even when in a relationship. The concept of 'your own personal space' used to seem like abunch of bullshit to me earlier but now I really do understand its importance. Guys more so than girls in their over anxiousness when in love have this tendency to completely lose their identity. It might have something to do with the fact that most of my friends are engineers who either never had a chance or never pursued girls back in India. So in their first real relationship far away from home and family they tend to give it all. And then when things dont work out their lives are suddenly completely empty.
In fact even while in a relationship if you dont give your partner space, she/he may accuse you of having a suffocating effect (trust me this one I have heard from personal experience!)

How I wish things stayed as simple as those cute high school crushes...